first impressions
I have decided that I am going to trust my first impressions of people more than I have been.
Time and time again I have encountered someone that triggers my "asshat" alert in some way.. that made me instantly dislike them.. and when I have the patience to wait and see, I find out why.
Now I am not saying that I am this great paragon of wonder when it comes to interactions with others.. I have a big ego, firm preferances on what I do and how I do things.. and they dont always mesh well with others, but still, its turning out more and more often that my first impression of someone is dead spot on.. even without much to base it on at a concious level.
For example, a while back in the game I play someone made a comment to me how I was always 'ragging on them'... to be honest I might have been using a touch more snark than usual when talking to them.. but I dont think it was a lot more.. I think he was being overly sensitive.. but still.. it made me sit down and think.. that yes, I didn't like him. I didn't know why, but it was clear.
I did try, I really did... I made an effort to not be unreasonable to him or in regards to him.. and yet.. as I see more and more of what he does and how he behaves and how he acts my first impression was spot on... he isn't the type of person I like, or want to associate with. I think the final and clear straw were his racist remarks one day in chat, including the word "jigaboo".
I can see the time coming, prolly soon, where "drama" in the game is going to break out and spill over and around this guy.. and I am hoping to not be in the center.. but its hard, because when I dont like someone I reflexively get nasty to them... like how I treated "Loolee" when she was an ass to a friend of mine.
Ah well, it will be interesting to see how it goes down.
